Although finding the right partner, is unquestionably a great way to get a relationship off on the right foot, it isn’t enough to keep you on the right track and to build an increasingly more successful team between you and your partner. One of the biggest relationship killers is neglect. This chapter
illuminates some of the ways in which we can prevent neglect from setting in and setting things on a downward spiral. Regardless of how full our lives may be, it is always possible (although not always
easy) to carve out time for the experiences that deeply nourish and deepen our relationship.
- Ways to Nurture Your Relationship During the Holidays
- 50 Years of Relationships in 25 Minutes
- Wedding Anniversary Milestones
- Tips for Happy Family Gathering
Stronger at the Broken Places
- We have no choice about he challenges that befall us. Our only choice is how we relate to the challenges.
- We can’t keep the waves from coming, but we can learn to surf.” Swami Satchidinanda
- The basic difference between an ordinary man and a warrior is that a warrior takes everything as a challenge while an ordinary man takes everything as either a blessing or a curse.” Carlos Casteneda
- Resilience is the ability to quickly recover from adversity, loss, misfortune, illness and change.
- Life’s blows can grind us down or prompt us toward wholeness.
- It is not the strongest of the species that survives, or the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” Charles Darwin
- Resilience is developed in response to challenges and crisis. We tend to try to avoid difficulty but it is through adversity that we learn to develop the strength that resilience entails.
- Heartiness exists not in those people who have been spared life’s difficulties, but because of how they have used life’s difficulties.
- We need to break the habit of avoiding unpleasant feelings and experiences, and learn to open to them.
- We must acknowledge the feeling of shock anger, rage, discouragement, disappointment distrust, fear, anxiety and sadness before we can move on.
- “We learn the most from difficulty and our enemies.” Dali Lama
- The price that we pay for being a victim, blaming other people or circumstances, is a sense of powerlessness in our ability to shape life’s events.
- It is our attitude that comes first, and then the attitude shapes behavior.
- In the midst of chaos, we need to question our beliefs and thoughts, which are often sweeping generalizations, to see if they are really true.
- Asking the right questions, like: “What is to be learned here?” or “ Do I have some responsibility in this breakdown?” assist us in the process of resolution.
- Always search for the meaning in the suffering.
- In studies of people who were able to sustain themselves during times of tremendous stress, and recover from it, they tended to have a greater purpose that provided them with vision, strength, inspiration, and creativity to persevere and prevail.
- “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the power to choose his attitude in any given set of circumstances.” Victor Frankel
- Our greatest weakness can become our greatest strength.
- “That which doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.”
- This course isn't simply didactic, but is also experiential. It is necessary for you to understand what will be required is more than simply to listen, take notes, and receive the information that is given
- The course will hopefully provoke and evoke feelings, opinions, concerns, and experiences that are not simply generic to most people, but also those that are specific and personal to each individual in the relationship
- Students will learn ways in which they can deepen their experience of appreciation and affection with those they care for, strengthen feelings of mutual trust, and grow an increasingly fulfilling connections. In addition, it will help them to avoid some of the pitfalls that couples often encounter as they move from the early stages of infatuation into the stage of commitment and beyond